Do Housewives Need Time Management?

Do housewives need time management?

Yesterday, I met a couple.  She is a stay-at-home housewife and mother with three children.  She asked me what I did.  When  I told her about my time management business, she said:   “I need that”   And her husband chimed in agreement.

We soon discovered that she had a different style than his.  Was her style wrong or right?

Style is often criticized.  What seems like disorganization to the observer can actually be quite an effective way to manage time based on the demands.

Is any style okay?  How do you know whether or not your time management is effective?

There’s one main question to ask yourself:

“Does my style of time management negatively impact me?”

That’s right – you – not anyone else.  Just you. If the answer is yes, then, yes, change is warranted if you want – and yes, then do get someone to help “tweak” the way you manage your time.  If the answer is no, your style is working for you!

Notice one important thing here – this determination has nothing to do with what other people think or feel about how you manage your time – the main concern is whether it works for you.

Housewives and mothers have a difficult time with this concept because they are used to caring for everyone in the household and often used to being criticized especially when others feel that she is not meeting their needs. As the main caregiver of the children as they grow up, the household affairs, school involvement, illnesses and a host of other demands on a woman’s time, the woman often loses a sense of time ownership.

It’s different than a regular job – theirs is 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year for, often, for a couple of decades or more.  It’s a lot of work and energy output.  When a child falls and cries, a mother drops everything to check it out.  When a child or husband is sick, her time is turned upside down.  When her kids’ friends come over to “watch the game”, she is preparing snacks and often cleaning up after them.  When her husband entertains outside the home, she is expected to look her most “beautiful” and be an excellent conversationalist – she “is” so many things to so many people!

Does her time management work for her?  That’s the only question with which she needs to concern herself.

The way she manages her time may impact others, that’s true.  But, truly, that’s their problem – and they must make arrangements to mediate those issues as they would in any other part of their lives with any other person.   Just because someone is a mother and a housewife does not mean she is not herr own person perfectly capable of assessing what needs to get done and when.  She is, after all, a member of the family – not a servant – and a perfectly, highly functioning adult capable of a host of skills and abilities not required of any other member of the household.  She is the only one to know whether or not she needs help with time management based on her results, not opinion.

Do housewives need time management?  Perhaps. 

Lorraine Arams
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What Do You Need to Know to Manage Your Time Well?

What do you really, really  need to know to manage your time well?

There are general characteristics of people who manage their time well.  It seems as though it’s an “outside job”.  People watch people who use their time effectively and want to know what calendar they use, what software they use, how they’ve developed such a great memory, the secrets to getting so much done in their lives and the list goes on and on – everyone thinks that people who manage their time well have a “trick”.

In a way they do.  It took me a while to learn this lesson and, once it was learned, it was much easier to understand what I must do each and every minute.  The lesson learned:  take care of myself first! That’s it – nothing more complicated than that and if you think about it, you’ll likely come to that conclusion as well.

What does that mean?  It means being very clear what my values arewhat’s really, really important to me? Not to someone else but to me – I simply cannot please anyone else.  For a moment, when I do what others want me to do, yes, they are pleased but it’s fleeting.  If, however, I only do what pleases me, it’s with me forever and it builds upon itself.  It builds my good feeling about myself by always putting the most important person in my life ahead of everything else:  me.

Sounds quite insular, doesn’t it?  I thought so too – how selfish that attitude seemed to me at first.  However, I could not argue with success.  I learned that, in actual fact, it was the only way to live.  My birth, my life and my death are my own – no one else’s – I own my life. It’s liberating the minute that notion finally sinks in! I had been taught something completely opposite – it was a lie – the only truth that could ever exist is taking care of the most precious thing to me – me.  I know how it sounds – please take the time to think about it if these words truly shock and disturb you.

What does that have to do with time management?  I have a starting point.  Everything I do begin at this point – me – what will make me feel good and what do I need to do to achieve what I want, be the person I want to be and surround myself with the people, things and experiences which I value.  Can you feel the freedom in that approach?

Think about some of the dilemmas of life and how much more easily a decision can be made if the only important person is yourself:

  • How much easier do you think it will to say no to requests from other people and not feel guilty?
  • How much easier will it be to leave a job you despise and have the confidence in yourself to move onto something better suited to you?  It’ll be no longer someone else’s choice of job or profession – only your own!
  • How much better do you think you’ll feel about yourself every single day as you interact with others based on what you want for yourself?  You simply won’t get taken in by other people’s manipulation.
  • How much faster do you think you will move towards your dreams, your goals if the only person you are pleasing is yourself? You’ll be thinking and using your head and your heart to make important decisions in your life about your life for your life – the one you have designed for yourself!

Will you still make mistakes? Yes because sometimes old patterns come back and we lose our way – however, if a person always knows the foundational factor, it’s much easier to get back on track.

Will you need tools? Yes, of course, you’ll need tools.  However, no tool will ever work if this foundation is not built in the first place!  The fun part of this is that you’ll be able to use the tools effectively and use them to suit your life.

Lorraine Arams
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Game Changers – A Journey into Innovative Minds

Game Changers – turning hope into reality – a journey – innovation is captivating!

Forbes has a fabulous article out today about game changers – people who live in the same world as their colleagues but do not accept the status quo – they take a journey to resolve long-standing social problems or turn ideas on their heads.  This is truly a journey into innovative minds – it is refreshing and inspring!

A mother whose daughter has a rare disease cannot accept the inevitable.  Today that daughter is 26 years old – see how one mother saved her life despite “established” predictors!

An economist who see irrationality as a positive! 

A community which embraces all sources of energy!

A psychiatrist who takes algae and combines it with new technology in an effort to resolve such illnesses as depression!

. . . . have a look – these are exciting and stimulating ventures into innovative minds. It serves our biggest motivating human factor – hope – and it certainly makes a person feel good knowing how one person can buck status quo and give us all incredible gifts!

Lorraine Arams
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Can You Reduce Stress with Time Management?

Can you reduce your stress level with time management?

It depends.

If the level of stress is still manageable, then, yes, time management techniques can help.  However, when stress levels are acute, time management can, if not used properly, actually increase stress levels.

When I was in acute stress, I wanted a quick fix – I wanted relief from the intense pressure of stress NOW!  Of course, that’s not really possible unless a person is knocked unconscious or takes a sedative, neither of which address the stress issue.

However, even in acute levels of stress, it is possible, if you are willing, to give yourself some liberation from the intensity of what you are feeling.   If you are willing, then let’s start simply.

Here’s how:

1.  Get yourself a cup of tea or coffee, a pen, a big piece of paper, you date book . . . . and give yourself a break! That’s a good start since you likely don’t feel you can really take a break right now – that’s your first step into good, sound time management – taking care of yourself first!

2.  On the piece of paper, make five columns along the width of the paper:

  • Things on my To Do List
  • Is it necessary for me to do
  • I can delegate it to
  • Date & Time to be completed
  • Schedule

3.  In the first column number and list every single thing you think you need to get done.

4.  Now comes the analysis part in the next 4 columns:

  • Is it necessary for me to do – sometimes we feel we need to do everything but actual fact we don’t.  Be honest with yourself – do you really need to do it?  Why?
  • I can delegate it to – when we’re stressed out, we don’t think clearly.  And we think it’s faster for us to do it all rather than get people to help.  It’s not!! That’s a story our minds make up because for every single thing that comes off your list that someone else at work or at home can do, gives you that time back. It could be that you think the housework has to get done.  It does – we have all have  it to do.  If you have an intense job and longer hours, then hire someone to do your housework for you.  A person concentrating on cleaning can get a lot done in 3 hours that might take you a lot longer!  Delegate chores to family members if you have a family and at work, delegate tasks to members of your team and your colleagues.
  • Date and Time to be completed – your list now should be a lot shorter.  Put and date and time on each one when each one needs to be completed.
  • Schedule – in your day book, enter the items to which you have assigned a date and time.

Okay, can you feel the pressure coming off a bit?  Likely especially if you have given yourself permission to delegate some of those tasks to other people – yes, other people can do things as well as we can or perhaps even better and we don’t have micro-manage them either! For someone under acute stress, this is one of the most difficult things to do!

Delegation means:  clearly defining the end results we want the person to achieve, giving them the tools they need, providing them with a deadline date and time and letting them accomplish the task the way they want.

For the next couple of weeks, I will be covering more stress and time management issues so stay tuned!

A site you might interested in reading is:

Lorraine Arams
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Whoever You Are This is a Must Have Time Management Video

Whoever you are this is a must have time management video!

There are time management tips here for everyone – personally and professionally.  These are practical, respectful and based on the one key important time management principle – values!

It’s good for everyone to take at least one or two of these tips – it will help you save you at least some time somewhere in your life.

It’s over an hour long but worth every second. Think about how long it takes to read a book – and you won’t get this much out of any one book.

I have no doubt that you will get something out of this video – very valuable information!

Lorraine Arams