Time is a One-Way Street – Are You Shocked by That Statement?

Have you every thought about this obvious fact – time is a one way street!

The time of your life is a one-way street – are you at all interested?

There’s no going back and there’s no going forward either – this moment right now is all we have. It’s really tough for us to get our heads around that notion because we are so used to living and so used to having more and more time without doing anything to get it – it’s just there – it’s given to us.

Our memories are the past which we can never, ever relive again – that moment is gone forever.  The future is unpredictable no matter how predictable we want it to be.  You can plan until the cows come home but you really have no idea what’s around the corner in the next moment of your life.

Because we get used to time, we don’t think about it very much.  But when we’ve neglected to honor it, we blame a lack of time for our troubles. In actual fact, it is only our own neglect of our time which causes our problems with time.

All we have to do is look on the internet.  Time management is slotted into other sites which talk about everything else – time management in many instances is just one of the topics of the site – almost like an after-thought.

Time management is not about managing minutes, hours, days, weeks – it’s about your life! All of your life – and what rolls around in your head is the very key to time management – get the head straight, you’ll get time management working as it should.

Over the next few posts, I will be talking about the psychology of time management – the source of all time management ills.  It’s what I term as “you-centered time management”.  I’ll give you some questions to start clarifying your relationship with time – a course in time management with a twist;  it’s the only way to truly become master of  time, of your life.

Many tools are provided on the internet and yet people struggle with managing their time.  None of the tools will ever work until you are able to get a handle on your relationship with time.  Once you are clear, then you’ll see that time management will sort itself out.

Time is the one-way street of our lifeare you at all interested? Are you using it wisely or are you squandering it?  Is time passing by?  Do you feel in control of your time or a passenger on a fast train nowhere?  Are you stressed to the maximum and yet there is more to do?  Your life doesn’t need to be lived that way.  Stay tuned and I’d love your input so please leave a comment  –

Lorraine Arams
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When is Generosity a Great Marketing Tool?

When is generosity a great marketing tool?

Did you ever ask that question?  Has anyone thought about it?  Is generosity always a good marketing tool?

On the internet, there is flood of examples in which marketers “appear” to be generous when in actual fact they are not – they’re very charming, have a lot of energy but the heart is cold.  In the end, they withhold the most important details in order to sell customers more and more and more – it’s never enough!  And people, trying to build an income online, find themselves broke and flattened by the experience being blamed by the marketer for something or other – not working hard enough, not doing the right things, etc.  Some brick and mortar stores and other businesses do the same – it’s not exclusive to the internet – huge promises to get people hooked but the product does not deliver – we’ve all had that experience!

During the time of “plenty”, not that long ago before thousands lost their jobs in many prosperous countries, people would buy, buy, buy.  Now the tide has turned and the trend is towards buying quality rather than quantity.  Still, many internet marketers believe that the higher the price, the higher the perceived value.

This week-end, I participated in a much more powerful tool – sincere generosity. A woman, Shawna Seigel,(formerly Shawna Fennell) presented an entire week-end of education for internet business people – the ones starting out and the ones wanting to improve their businesses – FREE! You heard right – FREE!  And it’s not the first time either!

She’s been in an internet-based business for many years starting out as a single mom with kids to support and no money.  She found the free tools which were available at the time – there weren’t many – and built herself a business online, packing her products for shipping in the wee hours of the morning while her children slept – she had to put a roof over their heads and food on the table.  Her business grew and grew.

Her success allowed her to attend classes and conferences.  She added up the costs of one such conference – over $5,000.  She knew that most people simply couldn’t afford to spend that kind of money learning how to create a business so she used her resources and contacts to build the New Life Event.

She organizes and runs  the New Life Event twice a year.  Presenters donate their time and participants promote the event on social media – no sponsors, no advertising, no lengthy self-promotions – just down to earth real, usable knowledge imparted from presenters to participants.

Unlike many conferences people attend nowadays where participants pay a fee, hotel rooms, meals and transportation, presenters at the New Life Event come to you via webinar technology.  And many of you have been to conferences where you paid a fee only to listen to one sales pitch after another.  At the New Life Event, presenters do it for free and the only promotion they have is the introduction by Shawna and their contact information on the screen – the time is spent imparting knowledge to participants.   The presenters teach!    Amazing as it may sound, especially in the internet world, this generosity is still very rare – it takes a lot of resources, organization, time and effort to put these events on – it’s not an ad on the SuperBowl – it’s real costs to a business from the most precious of their resources – time and people.

Hers is not a multi-billion dollar corporation which has huge numbers of people to support the effort and that’s what make her generosity even more incredible.

For those like me who do believe in loyalty, she has earned my loyalty – her generosity is amazing!  I learned a great deal this week-end – all week-end long – it would have taken me a long time to find all these presenters – in one week-end, not only do I have knowledge, I have genuine resources on which to rely as my business grows. (this wasn’t my first and it won’t be my last New Life Event)

If you are building a store online, consult with Shawna at http://www.1choice4yourstore.com/. And, if you are looking for sources to get those products, I would recommend Chris Malta at Worldwide Brands, http://www.worldwidebrands.com/another person who has a ton of free videos teaching you the ins and outs of sourcing and selling products online.  Between these two people, you’ll start out on the right foot!   No, I’m not making any money promoting either business – these two people are sincere in the help they give small business owners – would-be or established.  I want people starting an online business to begin with the right people rather than kiss a lot of frogs (in some cases, this is an insult to frogs!) as I have done on my journey!

In their case, generosity is a great marketing tool because it is sincere – they don’t tell you they over-deliver, they pre-deliver in practical ways that you can use whether or not you buy their product.  In the end though, they’ve sold themselves to you and you can’t forget them – you’ll gladly tell others about them.

Generosity is a great marketing tool when it is sincere and honest, giving without expecting anything in return and providing something truly useful.

Lorraine Arams

Why Do You Procrastinate?

Why do you procrastinate?

Have you ever thought about it?  Why would anyone procrastinate?  We all the know the downside.  Often, people blame it on not having enough time.

Is that true?  Do you really not have enough time to do that thing you promised to do and have been putting off for so long?  Or has procrastination become your “friend”?

I have found there are is one and only one reason people procrastinate:  pay off – there’s a payoff – a positive reinforcement to the behavior.  It’s that simple.

I can hear the protests now – “that’s not true”, “you don’t understand my time schedule”, “that’s silly” . . . really?  Let’s have a look at it.

1.  For some, power is the motivator in situations where others are waiting for what was promised.  The longer they wait, the more powerful the procrastinator feels.  “They’re waiting for me” – what a sense of control and power that provides.

2.  For others, it’s bragging rights. “I’m such a procrastinator”  “I can’t stop procrastinating”  “I’ve procrastinated my life away” – they just love the attention that by declaring a vulnerability – they are “one of the group” – a “medal of honor” – what they are really saying is, “look at me – look at what I’ve been able to do and get away with it”.    Basically, they’re bragging about how skilled they are at “getting away with procrastination”.  It’s a perfect way to lie to themselves and others – they’ll promise to get it done and, most often, don’t but then they “are”.

3.  And still for others, it’s a chronic habit that reinforces their view of themselves – they are not worthy and they’re out to prove it to the world by procrastinating.  Of course, when the tasks are not done, they feel terrible about themselves but that’s their payoff – feeling bad about themselves is the way they live in this world  – it’s what they know and reinforces the unworthiness they believe so deeply.

4.  Then there’s the “hero syndrome” – at the last minute, the task gets done!  What a thrill! The idea here is procrastinate, procrastinate, procrastinate until the very last minute and rush like mad to get the task done – the pressure is enormous – the conditions tight – and the race to the finish line exhausting.  If it gets done, there’s a “rush” – a euphoric feeling like no other – even failure to get it done has the “thrill” attached to it!  And, of course, if others are involved, they’re also thrilled that the task did get done.  It’s like watching a football game and the kicker scores the winning points in the last 3 seconds of the game – everyone forgets the pain of a near loss.  If it is a loss, of course, everyone is deeply disappointed.

5.  Finally, “mind torture” – some people torture themselves into “pushing” themselves to do something they don’t want to do.  They simply don’t want to do it! All that has to happen is the admission, “I don’t want to do this” and then don’t whether “it won’t look good”, “they expect it of me”, “they’ll be mad”, “I just hate it”, “I should”.   Let others know that you made a promise you can’t keep – let it go.  Admit to yourself you simply don’t want to do it despite others’ expectations that you “should”.  Accept the consequences and move on.

What’s your payoff?  What do you get out of procrastinating that keeps you hooked?

Lorraine Arams
“You-centered time management”

Summer Heat Affects Your Ability to Manage Your Time

Summer heat affects your ability to manage your time.

Why?  For many reasons including more crowding outdoors with additional tourists, many more people active outdoors, increased personal activity with friends and family, events demanding more volunteer time, vacation – it’s a very long list.

Mainly, however, is the effect heat has on our bodies.

In the extreme, the body suffers from heatstroke.  Think about symptoms of heatstroke:  confusion, delirium, fainting, coma, irreversible injuries, and death – that’s the extreme – the brain is affected and, therefore, our ability to think.

Every day our body reacts to heat and the changes in barometric pressure.  I’m sure you’ve noticed it in yourself  and others – our thinking ability is not as sharp, our body seems to move more slowly, our temper is closer to the surface and our energy seems to be zapped from us more rapidly.  We are more susceptible to headaches, joint aches, earaches and general irritability.

According to an article by Rudy Cote in a recent articles, “Beware of Heatwaves“, our bodies don’t always cope well with high temperatures especially if we are not conscious of our need to hydrate continuously during the day.  A combination of humidity and heat can stop the ever so important evaporation from our bodies which is the body’s mechanism for keeping it cool; without the ability to evaporate through the skin, internal body temperatures rise.

The article outlines some effects of high heat include:

  • skin irritations – small red spots on the face, neck and chest
  • cramps – during and after exercise
  • exhaustion – prolonged exercise in very hot weather can cause a collapse of the body’s cooling system which translates to profuse sweating, dizziness, intense thirst, blurred vision, nausea, headache and a body temperature rise to more than 99 degrees.
  • syncope – dizziness and loss of consciousness because of a decrease of blood flow to the brain while a person is standing

We’ve all suffered to a lesser extent some of these effects.  We can drink more water, not move as much, and stay in cooler environments to relieve the effects.  High barometric pressure according to an article by Eric Bagal, Health Effects of High Barometric Pressure,  causes small pressure changes in the fluid present in the brain.  Yes, there is a real reason for the way we think – there is an effect on the brain’s p[hysical functionality.

Time management is really about managing your life.  If your body is affected, then we can reason that everything in your life is also affected.  When you’re managing your time in the summer or other periods when the outside temperature rises, take into account that your body has changed – you will need to account for that fact in managing your time – everything you do will likely take longer to accomplish which means reducing expectations about how much can be done in  any given 24-hour period. We need to rest more, drink more fluids, reduce our exercise levels and eat more foods with high water content such as melons, lettuce, tomatoes, etc. and, of course, do what we can to avoid the serious effects on our bodies.

Summer is great and more than ever we must pay attention to our bodies and our time management; adjustments are required to avoid the extreme effects on our bodies – it does take more time.

Have a super summer!

Lorraine Arams

How Can You Manage Your Time When You Need to Learn Something

How can you manage your time when you need to learn something?

For many people, adding time for learning into your schedule can be daunting.  Attending classes can already take up two or three hours plus travel time.  And the homework can take up to 3 hours per 1 hour of  class time or more depending on the topic and the necessary research.  Sometimes the schools can tell you the radio of study time to class time – some courses, of course, are more time consuming than others.

The first step is to assess whether or not you have the time already available.  If so, where will you fit the classes and studying in? Write it down.   If not, what will you have to give up in order to fit it in?  This way you can make the necessary arrangements before classes begin.

The second step is finding the right  instructor.  Before registering, inquire as to whether or not you can sit in on a class by the instructor.  Why?  Because if you get an instructor you cannot understand, then it’ll be a waste of time.  Let me relay a story to you.

As an adult, I desperately wanted to learn to downhill ski.  I’d seen in movies and magazines the scenic beauty of this sport and it seemed like great fun.  So I signed up for a class.

The first night, I was excited.  The thrill of skiing!  By the end of the night, I was black and blue!

The next day, my boss asked me how the lessons went.  I told him it was a bust.  He took the time to talk about it and suggested I call the school to ask for another instructor for one private lesson.  I hesitated.  I wanted to learn how to ski more than I was concerned about “hurting the instructor’s feelings” so I called the ski school and talked to them.  They agreed.

A couple nights later, back on the ski hill, I was a little scared to say the least.  Louise asked me what my issues were.  I didn’t know because I didn’t understand what I didn’t understand.  Slowly and gently, she showed me step-by-step how to handle the T-Bar, how to get on and off, how to plow down the bunny hill and then how to parallel ski.  So far so good.  In less than 20 minutes, I was skiing the regular hill and wasn’t falling every two feet either!  Eureka!  I could ski!!!

The right instructor means not wasting time.  If you don’t have the right instructor, move on to another instructor or another school – it’ll save you a lot of time, money and frustration!

The third step is to buy the books as soon as possible and review them before the course begins.  It’ll give you a head start on the vocabulary and an overview of the material.

Then . . . . enjoy the process.  Learning is a great adventure and a satisfying one!  If you set yourself up in your calendar ahead of time and take these two additional steps, you’ll feel more relaxed and confident in your ability to complete the program.

Have fun!

Lorraine Arams
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