Posts belonging to Category Time Management, Friends, Family and Community




It’s holiday time – Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s Eve – parties, fun, friends, family, decorating, baking, cooking, presents, gift buying . . . and whatever else is included in your traditions.

Don’t overload yourself!  Say no!  It’s a good time of the year to say no because you’ll run yourself ragged and when Christmas Day comes, you’ll be pooped!  Too pooped to pop the cork!

Here are a few more tips:

If you go to a lot of parties, discipline is key.  Stay an hour or an hour and a half, say hello, have a drink of something and leave.  Everyone will be happy to see you and you them, you’ll meet new people and have had some special time with people without over doing it.  If you stay 2, 3, 4 hours at every party, you will exhaust yourself.

Limit the amount of entertaining you will do.  Instead of a big formal dinners, have a drop in instead one afternoon and invite everbody – make it a Sunday afternoon – you can serve hors d’ouevres (there are some great frozen ones – heat and serve and have some fresh fruit and vegetables), a little Sangria or punch and you get to see a lot of people.  Some people will stay for an hour, others will linger a little – what a great way to entertain for the holidays

Pace yourself at work.  Lots of excitement and people bring in a lot of goodies at that time of the year.  Take more small breaks than usual – 5 minute breaks to take a few deep breaths and stretch – it’ll help keep the hype under control!

Gifts – shop a little every day rather than try to it all in one day – it’ll build the excitement slowly and before Christmas Day, you’ll have all your shopping done, gifts wrapped and be able to enjoy the beauty of yuletide season!

Entertain in January – January is often anti-climatic and people love it when holiday events take place in January.  Decorations are still up, people are more rested and they enjoy themselves more.  I did that one year and worked famously well.  Now I do it every year – it works!

Have a great Christmas – a fabulous New Year!


If you have kids, you know how much time decorating the room, arranging furniture, and setting up the activities can be not to mention the clean up afterwards – it’s like starting over!

Give a thought to trying this – take the party outdoors to the nearest park or in a forested area.  Bring along a small habachi to cook the hot dogs, have some juice and some fresh fruit – you’re done!  Oh, yes, certainly the cake – paper plates and plastic forks or you can get some bamboo plates and cutlery.  Make sure to bring a big garbage bag or two with you.

Then let the kids explore – what birds can they find?  what plants are around them?  can they name the tree types?  what insects are there?  You can make contests out of it and have prizes for the different categories – simple, easy and they get to learn something!  And the best part . . . . get them to help you clean up!!!

How’s that for saving time?


When you get home, you can relax – enjoy a clean house

Family – is it important to you?

Lots and lots of people, if asked, “is family important to you?” will immediately and emphatically say, “Yes!”.  Really? 

How many times have you watched people tell you how important family is and yet they spend most of their time at work or on the golf course? Or, when they get home, instead of spending time with family, do more work in the evenings or spend time on solo hobbies?   Do you ever wonder how much time there is left to spend with the kids and with their spouse?

How much time does it take to connect?  The time it takes to have your evening meal?  Are you connecting at all?  What would the members of your family say if they were asked about your commitment to them?

Familiarity of the home, the people in it, the routines (or not) and the day in and day out activities can put some people to “sleep” to the realities of spending real quality time with their families. 

How much time is enough?  Do you feel connected to members of your family?  Do they feel connected to you?  Does your spouse feel “the honeymoon is over” or does your spouse feel the honeymoon is on-going?  When was the last time you dated your spouse?  Do each of your children get individual attention?  Do you know who their friends are and what they do all day?  Do your children and spouse talk to you about “everything” or do you know very little about what is going on inside their hearts and minds?

And how do other members of your family feel about your connection with them – do you call your parents? uncles & aunts? cousins? in-laws? – how often do you see them? 

Regularly, it’s a good idea to think about these questions – one day, in a wink, one of these people could be gone forever – will you have any regrets?

These are some things to think about and a way to measure how important family is to you.  If family is not important to you, that’s okay – a lot of people don’t have that value as a top priority.  If, however, family is your number one priority then have the courage to measure it, to face up to the reality – are your words compatible with your actions?

No one can ever really tell you  the right amount of time to spend with your family members – that’s up to you and them – make sure it’s enough!