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Dr. John Nash and Time – Did You Ever Wonder?

Dr. John NashDid you ever wonder how it would be to be brilliant and lose years because other people controlled your life sometimes during your lifespan?

Last night, I watched A Beautiful Mind.  I had never seen the whole movie before.  Today I went on Wikipedia to find out more about the real man because we all know that Hollywood “enhances” real lives to appeal to our emotions.  They do a good job and I also like the real story.

Such brilliance stopped in its tracks because perhaps the most brilliant of minds are “unusual” and our common brains can’t grasp their world.  We fear unusual behaviors and, when we don’t understand something, we react in somewhat arcane and arrogant ways.  When he was getting his shock treatments, I wondered why.  Weren’t they afraid they might damage such a great brain?  Obviously not.  I would.  Perhaps some people can live with “imagined characters” in their lives if only they come to understand the difference. Children do it all the time and we don’t think they’re crazy!

Dr. Nash lost many years while “incarcerated” to institutions.  Imagine the fear he must have felt each time he came out.  So much valuable time was eroded from his life.

Think about your life – how much rushing around you do.  What if you lost a full year or 2 or 5 or 8 or more years because of an illness.  Do you think you would slow down a bit?  What difference would it make in the scheme of things to entirely change your world for a while?

I wonder myself – if we just stopped the world and got off for a few years, what would happen?

Someone told me recently that she is taking off to Europe for an indeterminate amount of time.  She has worked for a few years, was laid off and decided it was time to travel.  She’s young enough to enjoy it and physically fit to adapt to the changing landscapes.  She’s getting off for a while – away from the rush we build into our worlds. Smart woman – when we experience the people and lives of other parts of our planet, we come to see the world differently and our part it.

If you haven’t seen the movie for some time or have never seen it, I hope you pick it up a copy to view on a rainy Friday night and watch it.  Imagine you’re John Nash and imagine living through his journey.  Let me know what happens.

Lorraine Arams





Timing is Everything – No Matter What

astonomical clockDo you believe that timing is everything?

I do.

Last night, I watched the final game for the Stanley Cup.  Both LA Kings and the New Jersey Jets were great clubs.  The amount of hard work, good coaching, and luck to get to the finals is enormous.  Yet there has to be a loser and a winner – one team must win – there is only one Stanley Cup.

What was the difference?  Luck.  Lucky that all the factors came together when necessary for the win.  The Jets, in the first period, got a 5-minute penalty and LA Kings capitalized on it with 3 goals.  What if the hitting hadn’t been so hard?  What if the penalty had been only two minutes?  What if there had been no penalty as in the case of so many other checks.  What if? 

The Smartest Man in the World

‘What if’ can also present itself in other ways in our society.

Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell, The Story of Success illustrates how luck plays such an integral part in achieving success or not in any field. 

One of the most poignant stories in the book is about the smartest man in the world. Few know his name.  Chris Langan.  Gifted, born in poverty without the home learning necessary to navigate the real world and faced insurmountable obstacles, he never reached his dream.  Despite hard work and great efforts, his talent, ingenuity and genius in philosophy, mathematics and physics, there was no luck in the world for Chris Langan.  Poor home life, rigid bureaucracies and no champion were the factors that derailed what could have otherwise been a brilliant career.  Compare his story with Bill Gates – born to the right parents, at the right time, with access to the right equipment, meeting up with Paul Allen, and growing up during the leading edge of the technological revolution. The factors conspired to make him a billionaire.

Have you ever wondered . . . .

If you’ve ever wondered why your hard work and dedication have never paid off, read Outliers – you’ll be amazed how coincidences accumulate to destroy  the future of some of the brightest and the best.  So it has been through eternity and thus it shall always be.

Do you give up?

It depends on what you are giving up on.  On yourself?  Never, ever give up on yourself.  You are the most important person alive! 

So what do you do if you don’t achieve your dream?

Live.  Live a life every day that you are proud to live.  It might not be ideal or perfect. 

It can be satisfying.

I strived, worked like mad for many years, and educated myself repeatedly.  How I worked!  I had the goal in mind.  But, like Chris Langan, I didn’t have the formula.  I had many, many successes – but not the one I wanted.  Then I read Outliers.

It’s a formula – it’s luck and it’s many, many other factors which need to come together for a dream to materialize.

But life is a many faceted diamond.  We are here to learn.  I learned many thingson my journey.  Here are some of them:

a)  to be grateful every day for what I have – I have good health, food on the table and a shower with hot and cold running water without my having to haul the water from the well or gather wood to heat the water.  I live in one of the most beautiful cities in the world .

b)  I cannot afford the luxury of a negative thought – not one – because negative thoughts are so quickly nurtured by the negativity in our world.  Staying positive every minute of every day is one of the greatest daily challenges.

c)  relationships take time to build especially the one with myself.  Loving oneself and being selfish about crafting the life I  want is critical to a happier and fulfilling life. 

d)  life must be crafted – planned – and developed otherwise others will pay attention to my life for me.  People will take whatever they can get or commandeer my life according to their ideas and values.  I know solid boundaries are incredibly important based on my values – mine – not other people’s.  I now know the most important value of all – loving myself and the life I’m living – caring for it – nurturing it as did the people who cared for me as a baby.  It’s tough maintaining those boundaries sometimes so the values I live must be real to me – life is an inside job!

e)  live it up!  I love vacations now – travel – and I love my curiosity – it’s an exciting world filled with fascinating people, things, places and discoveries.  I’m getting involved in my community, my world – it’s so fantastic!  And now I see the mistakes of the past were great lessons – we live in a world of contrast – good and bad – without the contrast, it would be a boring existence! Both my successes and mistakes are a part of who I am today and I am proud of that person I know so intimately!

Will you join me?

Will you join me and define the right life for you?  I hope so – and even if timing is not on your side, life can still be a great adventure of discovery and fun!  You’ll all of a sudden become quite aware of time –

Lorraine Arams

How Are You Managing Your Time Machine?

time machineHow is your time machine performing?


What is time?

 Can you see it? 

Can you feel it? 

Can you hear it? 

Can you taste it? 

Can you hold it in your hand?

If you took a picture of time, what would you see?

Does time really exist?

We think it does. 

What would our world be like if we had no clocks, no watches, no time machines of any kind?

For quite a while now, I have not worn a watch except for certain events.  I have no idea what time it is often.  I have a sense of clock time based on the position of the sun or by watching what people are doing.  If I want to be certain, I find a clock and look at it but generally I don’t know how much time has passed while I’m performing tasks.

I notice more now without a watch or a clock.

People with watches get very upset if they are waiting for someone to show up at a certain time and that someone doesn’t show.

People become anxious as they see the work pile up on their desk and check the time.

People get frantic watching time tic away as they are stuck in traffic and need to get somewhere else in a hurry.

If someone were to take away all the clocks, what would happen?  Would people be less anxious, less angry, less in a hurry?

Not regularly wearing a watch, I found that:

I enjoy people more because the clock is not dictating how long to spend with that person.  When the visit has run it’s course, we just both know it.  We’ve enjoyed each other and time measurement had not thing to do with it.

I’m more creative because I set no deadlines yet I get things done much faster.

I’m more relaxed and get a lot more done day to day.

Meals are  more pleasurable – the clock is not telling me when to cook or when to eat – I do it as I feel like it.

My body tells me when it wants to exercise and for how long.  It’s amazing how so much more pleasurable exercising is when there is not a time slot.

The pressure is off and life is so much more enjoyable.

Can I do it every day?  No.  There are promises to keep. And that is what causes us to seek ways and means of managing our time – promises to keep – the hours we promised to work at our job, promises to meet with someone, promising to complete tasks by a certain date and time,  etc.  Could it be that if we made less promises, we’d enjoy ourselves much more?

Try It – You Might Like It . . .

Try it – take your watch off, turn off your cell phone and avoid clocks as much as possible.  If you’re outside your home, it’s much easier since there aren’t many clocks around any more.  Do it for half a day or a full day – notice what you feel and sense.

The world is a less harried and crazy place and much more beautiful when we focus on something other than the clock.  There’s a special connection with nature and people when we are not concerned about time – an ebb and a flow comes about more naturally than that forced by a timepiece.

It could very well be that we don’t need to manage our time machine as much as we think we do.  Maybe all we have to do is let go of trying to control the illusive and take more pleasure in living and enjoying every single moment engrossed in whatever we’re doing.  Putting less “bars” around our time may actually free us!

Lorraine Arams




Yet for all that time is not, we try to manage it – the moments we experience awake.  That’s all they are – moments of space we occupy awake in which we are either running away or towards something or both. 




It’s Equinox Day – St. Patrick’s Day – and . . .

Happy St. Patrick’s Day!  And Happy Equinox Day!

What does that mean?  A Irish celebration and 12 hours of daylight and 12 hours of night.

Equinox also signals Easter.  How?  Easter holiday dates change every year because Easter falls on the first Friday after the full moon.  Our full moon will be March 29 and the first Friday will be April 2nd, Easter.

St. Patrick’s day was originally a Roman Catholic holiday in recognition of a patron saint called . . . you guessed it . . . Saint Patrick.  Born in Roman Britain, he was kidnapped at the age of 16 by Irish raiders from whom he escaped and returned to Britain.  He became a priest.  In 432, he was sent to Ireland to “save the Irish” and converted many Irish from all classes – royalty, aristrocracy and the poor.  He died on March 17th, 461 AD.

The color was originally blue but changed to green over the years. It is said that St. Patrick used to explain the Holy Trinity using a shamrock.  It’s a public holiday in Ireland, but celebrated in many other countries – Great Britain, Canada, US, Argentina, Australia, New Zealand and Montserrat. 

And, of course, we feel a change in the air too – Spring is just around the corner – hope you have a great day today!


You Will Never See It Again . . . we can’t save it!

That second that just went by  . . . you’ll never see it again – never!

Think about that – just stop one minute and think about that – try to grasp that – can you? 

That’s how your life is – time that flies by – unnoticed, without fanfare, without any sort of announcement and without a calling card – it comes and goes

We save money, food, pictures and so many other things – we cannot save time!  It’s gone!  Never to return . . .  there’s no “time piggy bank in the sky” – you’ll never be a newborn ever again –  you’ll never be 10 or 16 or 25 or more ever again!

Have you ever thought about that before?  Likely not – it’s not something people dwell on. 

However, it’s a sobering thought – very, very sobering.  And it’s a very difficult thing for the mind to grasp because we have lived so many hours, days, months and years.  Time slips away whether we’re sad, happy, rich or poor – it’s an equal opportunity delivery system!

How will you choose to live your life every second of every day?